Scenario: innocent remark -> massive reaction
It was an epiphany to me that I am a trigger,
I
am
a
trigger
I mean, it's logical I guess, but the penny didn't really drop until relatively recently.
We all know we influence our kids by what we say and do (which comes from our thinking preferences) and they react out of their thinking preferences, which is not identical to ours.
If we miss their take on life often enough they may completely bypass thinking about what was said/done and immediately go to emotion or behaviour, which has consequences, good or bad.
So what am I saying?
It helps to have a little insight into how your child thinks about things. It may help you rephrase to allow your child to hear what you mean. It may cause a better choice of behaviour with more favourable outcome.
Thus, speak the language of the listener!
NBI Brain Profiles
www.thinkingforwardsa.co.za
