In just the past two days I’ve spoken to three different parents who all, in random and casual conversation, alluded to the same thing - how on earth can I do everything that’s expected of me; how can this be so hard; how can I always be feeling so spread thin; how do I keep it all together?
The demands of life, in this instance particularly as a parent, wasn’t something I brought up, it just came up, reminding me that some form of struggle is a universal part of life and parenting.
We may mention some of these struggles to our close friends, or on a bad day allow ourselves to lament at a kids party or at the school gate at pick-up time, but generally we seem to grapple with hardships alone. It’s almost as if admitting to something being difficult is a shameful proclamation of weakness, incompetence and defeat.
How wonderful would it be if we could encourage each other by sharing our stories, or to be able to seek advice without judgement?
Saying yes, yes and yes - it is a great honour and privilege to be a parent! I love my child/ren!
But sometimes I just don’t have the answers; sometimes I don’t know what the right thing is to do; sometimes I’m exhausted and sometimes I feel like I just can’t do it.
Maybe you have a platform for sharing and asking for input - that is a healthy place to be.
Perhaps you can be the platform and advisor to another parent.
But let’s try to see each other without judgement, remembering:
Look out for signs of burnout in yourself and your partner:
Seek the necessary help should you need to.
Implement simple ideas that may decrease stress and/or free up some extra time:
Everything in life is cyclical and tough times are a given. Try to plan ahead and flourish when things are tough. Should you be facing a tough time right now, be encouraged that you are not alone. Find someone who can empathise and provide a listening ear to help you through.